Illuminating their reality: the use of metaphor by parents of children with disabilities to express their experiences of health care

PURPOSE: To explore the nature and meaning of metaphors used by parents of children with disabilities when describing their healthcare experiences. METHOD: A systematic procedure was used to identify and analyze metaphors spontaneously mentioned by parents in 13 focus groups held with 65 Canadian parents of children with disabilities. Attention was paid to identifying deep (i.e., meaningful) metaphors rather than common expressions. RESULTS: A total of 214 deep metaphors were identified and categorized into four target-source groupings. Parents used journey metaphors to describe experiences of uncertainty, conflict and harm metaphors to describe confrontational, harmful, and demeaning experiences of care, games and puzzles to describe the unknowns of care and attempts to resolve these unknowns, and metaphors concerning environmental barriers (i.e., walls and doors) to express feelings of exclusion and difficulties accessing care. CONCLUSIONS: Parents' metaphors expressed experiences of uncertainty, powerlessness, and attempts to exert agency in healthcare interactions. The metaphorical groupings provide new insights into how and why lack of family-centeredness in service delivery is bewildering, distressing, and disempowering to parents. Implications for service providers include paying attention to what metaphor use reveals about parents' experiences, and discussing parents' metaphors with them to create joint understanding, providing a fertile ground for collaboration.